tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post9057364977049971857..comments2023-05-11T15:00:16.884+05:30Comments on Life Snippets. Editions. Sequels.: When are you tying the knot?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post-87760246013307444102011-12-06T10:31:51.436+05:302011-12-06T10:31:51.436+05:30@girlsguidetosurvival
Hi DG,
You are back from a ...@<a href="#c5116039223214363180" rel="nofollow">girlsguidetosurvival</a><br /><br />Hi DG,<br />You are back from a long break I guess;-).<br /><br />Agree that one of the definitions of Highly respected is "Money" which translates to dowry, gifts and lavish weddings. There are other things too mentioned in the glossary. <br />a) Has impeccable record of arranged marriages done for all the children b) No divorcee records for cousins, extended family c) Same caste and religion d)Decent level of education. <br /><br />The reason I said this is confusing is because these very mandatory conditions are overlooked when parents want the marriage to happen according to their rules. Have written about money meaning 'highly respected' in this post. http://goingagainstthetide.blogspot.com/2011/11/making-sense-of-society-approved.html.Shyamalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17256687801957895482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post-40968368711210474432011-12-06T09:12:14.444+05:302011-12-06T09:12:14.444+05:30...Somewhere during our evolution from childhood t......Somewhere during our evolution from childhood to an adult, when we learn to grow independent, the values of parents differs from ours...<br /><br />To an extent mamis are right the apple does not fall away from the tree and desi parents raise kids as if they were an extension of their parents. It is rare desi children develop their own separate personalities or identities because everything comes and rests on family honor meaning, you represent the family and family represents you. <br />Where ever children have tried to develop as Congeny they have faced the music from their folks in the form of emotional blackmail and parental tantrums.<br /><br />To become her own parent is DG's bete noir...<br /><br />http://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2009/10/31/desi-dating-read-between-the-lines/<br /><br />http://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/desi-parenting-raising-devoted-sons/<br /><br />Peace,<br />Desi Girlgirlsguidetosurvivalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950975375086800634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post-51160392232143631802011-12-06T09:03:40.883+05:302011-12-06T09:03:40.883+05:30You asked, NO one knows what high-respected family...You asked, NO one knows what high-respected family means here...<br /><br />Every one knows what highly respected stands for, fat wallet. The ability to spend lavishly on wedding, entertaing the grooms party with expensive gifts and reception decorations.<br /><br />If the grooms party is higly respected that means they highly connected party (have connections in high places) are expecting a lavish wedding. If you cannot spend amount in certain range then do not even bother to answer the ad.<br /><br />http://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/2011/04/08/desi-sex-ratio-and-marriage-nirmala-1925-to-2011/<br /><br />Peace,<br />Desi Girlgirlsguidetosurvivalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950975375086800634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post-82248374249505236342011-12-02T21:58:48.395+05:302011-12-02T21:58:48.395+05:30I think I actually got more questions from my side...I think I actually got more questions from my side of the family about marriage, but my family can be very nosy. But now I'm getting questions about babies from his side, so I guess both sides are kind of nosy...:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post-42114752983079974952011-11-28T16:27:41.960+05:302011-11-28T16:27:41.960+05:30@nepalijiwan
Welcome here;-). Actually surprised t...@<a href="#c2566880212058220945" rel="nofollow">nepalijiwan</a><br />Welcome here;-). Actually surprised that you too faced these questions - was the pressure more from your husband's side or your own? I dont expect Nepal's traditions to be too different from Indian ones.Shyamalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17256687801957895482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413947612056132568.post-25668802120582209452011-11-28T15:58:01.120+05:302011-11-28T15:58:01.120+05:30Once I started dating my husband (then boyfriend),...Once I started dating my husband (then boyfriend), I was asked "when are you going to get married?" all the time. And I was only 18 when we met! Like you said, now it's questions about when we're going to have kids. I'm sick of it! But it's good to know that ppl are asking the same types of questions all over the world :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com